The bare minimum

Aren't you finding it crazy that you breaking free from a situationship, call it sneaky link or booty call(whatever name you call it) is way much harder than any serious relationship?

The person who does least in your life can have much attachment to you. 

Like you have a phone and there is this guy you actually like but communicates once in a month or so. And as you try to erase the memory of him, he sends a text claiming he is thinking about you and he misses you badly. You feel happy and the cycle is repeated.

Was watching reels the other day, and I stumbled upon one suggesting how to keep a man hooked into you and always thinking about you. One of the ways offered was "be absent, do the least, don't text him, don't call him, pretend you are busy with your life" Reason for that was men like the chase. May be they do ,but ,arent you tired of running, masking your feelings, pretending you don't care yet every ounce of your being does? I for one, I am exhausted by this circus because if the feeling is  mutual , why are we competing for the pseudo award of the most nonchalant one?

I believe for encounters where bare minimum is provided, we fall in love with the potential we have envisioned in them than what they are offering. You feel they can be more and more to you than what they are giving. Look at a situationship, you literally do all there is to do in a serious relationship, except commit and give a label to what you have. When you are in close quarters with them, you feel you are theirs, but immediately you step out of the door, you keep wondering if you read the signs wrong. What did he mean by he enjoys my company and the sound of my laughter? Is he just shy? Next time , you are at his, you are forced to ask the most infamous question you can ask in a situationship the "What are we? question.

And funniest thing in all this, there is a guy willing to do for you what you want your "bare minimum" to do for you. Sadly, you only have eyes for the deadbeat partner. 

(We all deserve to be openly loved and somebody who is sure of us and  they are not afraid of showing it. Of late, I started to pray/manifest for a chalant one  and praying when he does the feeling is mutual and I don't be the "bare minimum")